When you speak about “Daddy” being perceived as an “equal player” in the community…as “Sir” or “Master”…not as titles but as lifestyle practitioners…do you reject the idea that, moment-to-moment within every D/s relationship, we each have different roles? (for example., http://www.geocities.com/rovershand/3POD.html)

I googled ya and checked out your homepage, pretty cool. Your podcast looks like a great resource as well. I’ll drop you an email, maybe we can get you on sometime.

Thanks again!

p.s.
The url to the podcast is here: http://leatherbound.libsyn.com/http://leatherbound.libsyn.com/

As a gay man who has long identified with the Daddy role I was especially interested to hear your take on things– most notably, from a heterosexist filter. I must draw some similar conclusions to yours in the very different ways that the pan or straight worlds respond to the “Daddy” role versus the gay male leather world. I was also gratified to hear that qualities that I most closely associate with the Daddy role are often shared by my straight counterparts who identify as Master publicly. I had no idea that straight Daddies might be (or feel) less validated within their respective communities or be closeted for having less prestige or, as one of you put it, “the creepy factor.”

At any rate, I think you did a great job in providing an intelligent and very thoughtful discussion about a topic that’s near and dear to many hearts. I hope that queer perspectives will continue to be injected in these dialogues (and that these perspectives will also be shared directly by gay/lesbian/trans persons).

Respectfully,
ScottDaddy, Mr Philadelphia Leather 2008